Isolation, punishment, hurt, and control are not concurrent concepts of discipline. Consider whether you are raising a creative citizen or training a prison inmate.
As I contemplated the pretense and constant conformity, I thought it prudent that I explain the difference I see. So, in three hundred words I put pen to paper intending to take little time. It just so happened that as I wrote, they came out as words with rhyme.
Start at age 3 with a focus on articulating thoughts (logic/reason) and feelings (motivation/emotion). Model this articulation as a habit and expect this articulation habit. Ask and listen.
We have reprieves often, and when you get them you must recognize them and take action. Take your reprieve and make your life better in some way.