A discussion from the book Deceptions, Distractions, and Disillusionment: Barriers to Your Success and Ours. You CAN beyond limits. Can what? Emphasize the CAN without worrying about the WHAT. This means that you are complete even before the choices are made. http://mawmedia.com/archives/2072
No matter the pressure of the situation, there is no rush that outweighs knowledge and informed choice. But, if you are able--with professional help if needed--to harness the energy and use it to power your dream work, there is nothing that you cannot accomplish. This is a balancing that...
The Principle: After age 18, get to know people in groups. Pairing up/dating exclusively is a courting and pre-marriage activity, not a get-to-know activity. If the end point is not marriage, don't pair up. Stay in groups.
Finally! Speak the male language. What you need to tell him in order to get exactly what you need.