After your child has cleared the toddler stage and demonstrates an ability to reason, your parenting must evolve. Incrementally, your main task is no longer to keep them safe, but to support their decision making to manage and determine their own risk and safety.
Isolation, punishment, hurt, and control are not concurrent concepts of discipline. Consider whether you are raising a creative citizen or training a prison inmate.
Finally! Speak the male language. What you need to tell him in order to get exactly what you need.
It hit me like a ton of bricks. The young woman sat in front of me as I pleaded with her to continue in communication, not argument and stand-off, with her boyfriend. "How can you communicate with someone who is a thick as a brick?" she quipped. Without hesitation...