On August 25, 1998 Grammy award winner Lauryn Hill released an album called The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. On the album, the track titled Doo Wop (That Thing) teaches the troubles that women encounter when mate-seeking or looking for self-love. It also describes what men do to women in that process. She also tells the females how to carry themselves as respectable women. “That Thing” is about self-respect and self-love.
I have been “that girl.” I know what it is to look for love having not really learned how to love myself. If I understood my worth and value in my younger years, I would have made different choices. As a parent, I am committed to showing my child that the role of wife in a complete family unit can be accomplished. You must love yourself first.
I will start the second verse that she addresses to the men. According to the song, men are who they are. While dating they tend to only worry about themselves and will do just about anything to have sex with the other. They will lie, cheat, and may not even take care of their own children. Yet, they sport rims, and buy the bar at the club.
For some reason women fall for this game and become victim to circumstances that are patently avoidable. If women would take the time to love themselves and not seek love in every man they come across, people in general and more men specifically would have respect for them. How can you love someone or give love when you do not love yourself?
In verse one, Lauryn gives more education on how women put their religious beliefs as the forefront of their lives but do not live by its requirements. Women that do this are often viewed as hypocritical. Lauryn Hill calls them a Jezebel. In bible history, Jezebel was a false prophet. She was married to Ahab who was weak willed, and she dominated him. As a result of her actions, the entire nation suffered from a famine caused by a lack of rain. The story of Jezebel demonstrates that women have tremendous power, but how we use this power can determine our futures.
Young women must learn to carry themselves in a respectable fashion. Stop having sex as though STI and diseases like AIDS and HIV are not found at an alarming rate. Stop engaging in physical intimacy as if STD’s are all curable. Men will respect a woman with standards.
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by Abby Conner