I can’t believe the holidays have come and gone. Often, I think my mind is muddled with anesthesia, and I have literally dreamed everything that has happened to me in 2014. I am not going to repeat my story because there is such a thing as being redundant even when you have good intentions.
The last thing I want people to think is that I’m a complainer and a narcissist. Both are such unattractive and irritating titles. I do admit I have had the blues, but I seem to keep them lately. Holidays are a time when people get blue. But, for me it can happened when it is cloudy, cold, rainy, or any Monday where I serve as B.B. Kings’ poster child for Monday blues. Recently, I made a promise to myself that I was going to work on my attitude to improve my mood in order to get through the transitions that I was hipping through.
The Fundamentals of Self-Improvement
I was thinking about the work and discipline that is involved in one improving themselves. It is so easy to talk about it. What really happens is we just sputter about with no success.
My text alert went off, which I find amusing because with a funky attitude right now, I have the everlasting chipper chirping bird for a text alert. It was a message from a former classmate who became a dear friend. Her text was simple and sweet. It simply said, “I want you to know I was thinking about you, let’s do lunch.” I was so flattered. Why? It is important when a person stops in their day and thinks about another person.
My mood instantly changed from blue to happiness and shame at my constant selfishness. Her text brought to mind how incredibly blessed I am to be able to recognize how blessed I am. It made me feel good. We as humans always recognize our down times. We can always be pitiful and sad. We can seriously work a bad attitude. Plus, this particular day was cloudy and gloomy, but her text was like a ray of sunshine.
This is important because, often, we should reach out instead of waiting for someone to reach out to us. Giving love and friendship goes both ways. For all I know, my friend may have needed me to cheer her up. I always considered myself a nice, caring and compassionate person, even with life’s ups and downs I try to remember to be giving. Lately, I’ve slacked on that, because when you get into the doldrums it does become a one-thought process which consists of me, me and me and myself, and I.
I had to cancel our lunch date, but; when I see her, I will hug her and thank her for thinking of me and also thank her for giving me a true lesson of healing. Her simple text let me know I need to do better. I need to reach out more and open my heart in order for my sad spirit to heal.
I decided to keep her text. It reminds me to send good thoughts to other people while I’m hipping through this life, it is not all about me, it never was, I just made it that way because it was easy.
I’ve healed up nicely, and as I think back, I had people taking time to check on me my entire recovery time. I’m thinking about how special they are to me. It’s time for me to send some blessed texts and reach out to them. Lesson learned? It’s simple, if you reach out, someone will reach back and maybe you can cheer them up.
[Janet Blakemore is a former full-figure model, former director of a modeling school, recent retiree from TN State Government, and an awesome, vibrant spirit of a person. In addition to writing, Janet is an entrepreneur who enjoys retail therapy, being a Tennessee State University alum, and time with her adult daughter and extended family.]