I work with a lot of 18-25 year olds. This period is important because it corresponds with the most significant expansion of opportunity in a typical life. High school graduation, college, evolving relationship with parents, career decisions, and more punctuate this period.
I often find that my task with these kids is to confirm a new way of thinking. often, three lies challenge their pursuit of optimal intelligence. They lament that they are all over the place wanting to do and be a variety of things. They expect me to tell them to give up on a few dreams. I tell them to integrate them all.
Overcoming the three lies clears the way for a realization that your seeming variety and uncertainty is an expression of your creativity. Your complete dream can be ordered through a framework bringing all the pieces together. This is the Grand Convergence–that moment when all of YOU makes sense.
First, allow me to re-educate the 3 lies that threaten your success. Without removing these, you fail without trying. These lies keep you playing small.
The Three Lies
Lie #1: “You can’t do it all.” Yes you can. You Want to do it All, You Can. The Combination, action, and timing may need to be rethought, but you can accomplish all of the varied talents and interests you have in a lifestyle of contentment.
An example of combination may be your desire to work with elderly. But, you also like children. And, you also like working in school settings. Focus your work on grandparents raising grandchildren and their school-based supports.
An example of action may be in your desire to be a sports star. You don’t like practice or games, you enjoy the camaraderie and locker room engagement. You should start a discussion group, supper club, or bike club. The action is different, but you get what you want from the activity.
An example of timing may be in your dream to be a banker. You started your career as a real-estate agent. You have done well. You can still work toward being a banker as your second career. Most career professionals experience multiple careers before they are done with their work life.
Lie #2: “It should be about others, not you.” My life and happiness are about me, but more importantly, they are up to me. When The Pieces Fit, It is about You. “About you” is about your interests. You have to trust your desires and urges. It may not be sustainable to act on them the way they are first presented, but trust that they come from a place of authenticity. They are what you think you want in the moment.
Add competence. You will have to read, listen, and seek knowledge about your desires. Equipped with knowledge, you can envision a plan, and see where action on those desires will lead. You will see decision points in your vision that make the difference between sustainable and unsustainable results. If you can’t envision a sustainable result, you must return to your assessment of self realizing that you were wrong about what you wanted. It will not make you content.
Lie #3: “Get a great job.” No! Find a way to fund the bills while you do what you love.Your Job is not the end all. Your Hustle Is what endures. Don’t get tricked to think that contentment can be found in one job. Contentment is a life lived with joy and without regret. The important question is, “How do you sustainably create a lifestyle of contentment.” That’s the definition of Hustle–a sustainable lifestyle of contentment.
You may have to pay the bills with a job, but be careful not to allow the job to take you away from your hustle. The day job funds your hustle. Rather than seeking advancement and higher wages as first priority on your job, seek time and flexibility. I promise you, contentment follows. Determine whether the promotion and the extra money translates into freedom or increased restriction.