Consider the difference in your attitude and approach to every day if you realized that you are gorgeous. Not cute. Not good looking. Gorgeous!
The Difference in Your Focus
It’s Valentine’s Day, and I’m old. It strikes me as a truth in comparison to my 20 something students. In fact, I have a soon-to-be 16 year old. But, I don’t mean old as in fading. I mean old in the game of life. I have learned that attractiveness is centered in confidence and a certain sense of self. I have grown to realize that intelligence has mass appeal. I have discerned that youthfulness is a function of health. I have found that people are more drawn to you when they perceive you have wealth. And, I have realized that true wealth is centered in sure self, intelligence, and health.
I have continued to re-educate my self-esteem realizing that the exact facial features and visual characteristics that were the focus of ridicule and teasing as a teen are the things that others find most attractive about me. I tell you this because it took me 40 years to realize something life changing: Why would you focus on those that criticize you?
Beyond just saying that you don’t care what others think, I’m talking about another level. Instead of resisting or disregarding the negatives, how about ONLY focusing on people who find you gorgeous. It involves changing your inner voice toward what will be complimented versus what will be criticized. Realize how you have focused on the negative comments that MAY be made as you dressed for an occasion, as you walked into a room, as you met a new person for the first time. Instead of continuing that behavior, I’m saying realize that someone thinks you are gorgeous! Consider them first and continually.
The Boost in Your Productivity
Truth is, we don’t produce at optimum levels often for fear of imperfections and the criticisms that they bring. If perfection were the standard, not a single piece of software or hardware would have been produced in the last 25 years. Companies know and operate on what I’m telling you now. Get it out there, and let it develop organically. Focus on the people who love it. They will tell you how to continue developing it.
As with software and hardware companies, so it should be with you. Not only is life too short to wait for perfection, I’m telling you that you ARE ALREADY PERFECT! You have everything you need in the eyes of someone. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can get out there and live fearlessly.
Skin Deep And Greater Depth
If you don’t have people around you that truly appreciate you, your contribution, and your gorgeousness, it’s time to find a new group to be around.
And, if you don’t think I’m gorgeous, I wasn’t asking you anyway.
Gorgeous is external. Make no mistake. I’m talking about beauty that is skin deep. But, imagine when you surround yourself with people that can see you from the inside out. The imperfections you see in yourself are dismissed as works in progress while the energy of your spirit attracts like moths to flame. Yet, in the place of burns and hurt, you are light providing warmth and knowledge and peace.
Change your inner dialogue, but also find that group of individuals that see you…really see YOU. They will reinforce your inner dialogue of gorgeousness. They will ensure that you continue in benefit with your newfound truth.
If You Aren’t Gorgeous
If you are a person without purpose, less concerned about your word, slight of integrity, prone to talk without walk, any external beauty is clouded by your actions. You may be picture perfect, but you are person poor. You may be photogenic, but you are relationally toxic.
I mention you here because some may think that I became gorgeous by an accident of birth or some genetic lottery. No. Nutrition, fresh air, exercise, water, meditation, skin care, and environment got me here–from the inside out. I put time into developing competence, character, wisdom, risk, resilience, and courage from the inside out.
There is still time for you to get like me. If you refuse, I wasn’t talking to you anyway. Step aside so I can talk to that gorgeous person behind you. Oh. And #ByeFelicia