Casey was at a point in his life where just about everything was working out. Something still concerned him though. It was his constant desire to be at peace. This worried him something big. If only he knew for sure that things were going to be okay. There was so much he wanted out of life and for some reason it seemed like something was always coming up unexpected. He then would have to get through whatever it was before getting back to where he needed to be, working on his dream. His mind was working 24/7 trying to figure it all out, the job, paying the bills, providing for his family, reaching his goal of starting his own construction business. Casey never talked to anyone about things that worried him. He really thought he could handle it all on his own. For some time, he practiced internalizing all his fears and worries until one day he fell ill. His health coach gave him the following advice.
The principle that governs Casey’s recovery could be termed Hotep. Hotep comes from the Egyptian vocabulary meaning “At Peace, or to be satisfied.” Casey never developed Hotep for himself. He thought he was handling everything.
Whether things were going wrong or working out for Casey, he felt the need to stress, be anxious, and/or worry.
When Casey made the choice to worry he set up the perfect environment for health problems like obesity, heart disease, depression, headaches, and more. These health issues are often traced to lifestyle choices in response to poor stress management. Casey was probably already experiencing some symptoms like a lack of attention, trouble sleeping, and intermittent muscle tension. Casey failed to realize that having peace or being satisfied was an important element he needed. He never integrated a calming activity in the clamor to achieve his dream.
The Hero Complex
We often hear about these heroic people who single handedly took control of their situation and made it better. What is less advertised is the turmoil, panic attacks, and sleepless nights they went through to get there. Casey had some normal concerns about his life. We all have them. But, he took it to a different level of concern. He internalized it so that it triggered him to feel ill.
Sometimes, you can convince yourself that you are taking care of business and handling issues heroically as they arise. You can only fool yourself for so long. If there is an imbalance, it will surface in some way. It is a must to reflect, assess yourself and invite hotep often.
There are a few things Casey could have benefitted from. Casey never talked to anyone about the things that worried him. What stopped him from talking to his family whom he cared for? Health coach? Close friend? This could have taken some of the weight of stress away. Confessions have a way of giving relief even if it doesn’t solve the problem for you.
Casey practiced holding everything in without having a sustainable outlet. Maybe he was one of those people who prides themselves in being private. Being private doesn’t mean that you have to be without help. Privacy, sustainably, means that you share with trusted supporters. Casey had a dream, but did not have a plan of nurturing himself along the way to pursue it. Because he was in such a turmoil, his dream felt unreachable. It always seemed to take a back seat to something else.
Let’s expand on the meaning of the word independent. You, like most people, probably think it means doing everything alone. No one else gets the credit. Anyone observing notices that it is less about the doing and more about your limiting opportunities to collaborate.
Add the term freedom to your definition of independence. Being independent in your endeavors does not take away the opportunity. It should not limit your collaboration or search when more knowledge is needed. You have the freedom to explore what would make my situation better.
Casey desires peace, but he practiced doing things on his own. To be responsible to his own health, he could have adopted some practices that nurture, ease, and comfort him in those time when he felt anxious. He also could have realized that sometimes you can gain that peace from others and still get credit for being independent.
Obtaining Hotep can be accomplished in a variety of ways. It really depends on what works for the individual. The purpose of having hotep is that it offers you a sense of well-being. When you are at peace or satisfied, you will be freer to see the plans you set unfold. A person who is at peace with themselves and satisfied with their life rarely needs for someone to tell them their future. They know their path and they have incorporated a way to take the time to smell the roses along the way. Hotep creates a balance and assurance that things will work out because you are doing what it takes. Below are a few interventions that may help you find hotep.
- Keep an open mind and positive attitude. Open to the things that build you.
- Learn to meditate. Feel yourself relax and let go of worry. With practice you will see how your plans unfold and gain direction.
- Surround yourself with positive and supportive people. Take advantage of the wisdom they offer.
- Take time to nurture yourself. Reflect and be honest with yourself.
- Know where you need knowledge and acquire it.
[Taunya is nurse, author, and a three-year homeschool veteran. She is currently working on two books, the 3rd in the Brady Boe series, and Truth–the first in the End Time Saga Trilogy. #ReadTSW at taunyasBnB.com]