Honest is Better than Right: Seeking the Non-Dual Existence
Change Theories. Whether Transtheoretical model, Roger’s change model, Generalist Intervention Model, they all begin with the expectation of denial. What if your imperative was not to change, but to integrate what you have and develop it into its most sustainable form?
The first step is to let go of the duality of rights and wrongs, good and evil, good or bad. Human choice behavior has color. It cannot be reduced to simple black, white, and gray. Simply stated: your goals, tolerance, and will determine your choice behavior. More specifically: choice is a function of will through a sense of self-efficacy, influenced by consciousness in the context of institutions representing an enduring mindset.
You determine whether your choices are sustainable or unsustainable based on the expectation of outcome. Decision making weighs both negative and positive outcomes and their impact both short and long-term. Both states are present at the same time. Your goal, even subconsciously is to maintain balance. Discernment is needed in order to make the choice behavior practical and progressive.
The true nature of discernment is to determine the energy resonance. Defined based on the physics, energy resonance is the reinforcement or extending of personal energy by reflection or in-tune vibration of another person. Consider that the requirement within energy resonance is true or valid frequency—what we would call honesty. It is not a requirement to be clear and consistent in vibration. It is a requirement to say what you mean, reflect you true intentions, and be the person your behavior says you are.
Let go of the need to CHANGE and the limitations of DUALITY. Let go of the insistence on being RIGHT. Replace these with the energy of INTEGRATION, NON-DUAL (Both-And), and HONESTY.
Your Energy After Disappointment
You have power. Even when you are treated unfairly, overworked with underpay, or cheated. How are you using it?
Blame and Rationalization. These are people who spend time seemingly attempting to gain others to their point of view. The main complaint is that they have been wronged. It is important to speak up, to seek answers, and to seek justice at every level. That’s not what you are doing when you focus on blame and rationalization. The decision has been made. It was not fair. You have explored recourse. None exists. At this point, any energy spent is energy against a brick wall. There is another way.
Responsibility and Investment. It is time to seek another route to your destination. It could be that the investments you were making were misplaced. But, first and foremost, you must realize that the outcomes are up to you. Take YOUR POWER back. Take ownership of your energy. You arrest that power by taking responsibility for the choices you make and the energy you attract. Spend your time confirming your energy and seeking resonance from other sources. Find the space and relationships that are compatible with your vibrations.
Waiting on Karma. When you watch for natural laws to manifest, you upset elements of order and may be misapplying your energy reserves. Karma is one such natural law. Your hopeful watch on the lookout for karma expends energy you could apply as attraction for your next small success. See these as real investments. Make the most sustainable investment possible. Rather than waste your vision on the manifestation of karma, trust blindly that karma will fulfill its purpose. Your task is to fulfill your purpose.
Stress is energy. Happiness is energy. The key understanding is that you attract the events that connect with the energy you wallow in and you exude. When the stress increases, do you curse and despair, or do you plan and execute? The situation changes based on how you react. Your energy is like the call of birds. Specific calls attract specific birds. The skill required is to manage your energy and your vibrations intentionally—to intentionally attract what is compatible.
Attracting the Best
Life has curves and challenges. But, I’m offering the insight that the next struggle is opportunity, not just because of your cognitive reframe, but because YOU attract the best with your attitude, your vocalizations, your patterns of resolve, and your choices. As my current favorite quote states, “The universe is rigged in your favor.” Vibrate with faith, self-efficacy, and consciousness. Enjoy the results.
Following is the foundation strategy:
- Identify the goals, desires, impact, and mindset you want to have and influence others to have. Write it down, and post it until you memorize it.
- Open up to who you are complete with your quirks, pet peeves, hurts, needs, and giftedness. Integrate these realities through sustainable rules that support choice behavior that gets you to your goals.
- Seek understanding and insight to see the choices of others as reasonable. Let go of the need to judge blame until after you understand motive and mechanism.
- Accept that your incompatibility with some people and environments is based on the energy within those environments. Maintain the honesty of your vibrations through “sound checks” in your private, trusted, safe places and relationships. Seek compatible energy resonance to improve your quality of life.