Michael A. Wright: I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, and happened upon a lengthy post by Candance Massie. I grew more inspired with each line. I have known for years that she was a great writer. I have seen her blossom over the last year as she seemed to come into her own as a social work professional. I now know that blossoming was an intentional decision for her in response to words she read on her mentor’s page a year ago. I asked if I could share it on COACHMethod.com, and you will be glad that she gave me permission.
I had a mentor at one very low point in my life… He provided me with a listening ear, was empathetic, gave advice about my situation, and how to move on with my life– my aspirations. This mentor was around, give or take, two years. Everything that he asked me to do, I put it on my “to do list.” But, I only accomplished a few tasks asked of me (even though they were meant to help myself). I was so helpless, and I did not want anyone to know how I really felt. I wanted to appear and believe that my world was perfect, but I was crumbling inside.
Well, one day I saw that he posted “Bye Felicia” on FaceBook. I never asked if he was talking about me indirectly. That wasn’t my concern. However, I felt that I needed to see that post. That message allowed me to self-reflect in order to say “Bye” to my own “Felicias”–my malice thoughts, my procrastination, my lack of motivation and determination, my lack of being autonomous. I had become content with my personal “pity party” and, as a result, I became stuck emotionally. I was progressing in life, but at a slower pace because I became a hostage to my own self deception. I did not want to face REALITY.
I am now learning how to take RESPONSIBILITY for my RESPONSE in life, and how I handle certain situations. I am acknowledging that now.
Answer this: How far can one go to restore someone’s self esteem? Or better yet: How much control does a mentor really have over your life?
I appreciate all of the positive gestures, ideas, and motivational talks. We need people in our lives to tell us what we need to hear, and not just what we want to hear. At the end of the day, I had to tough it out. I had to do the “work,” get out of my feelings, and save my own ass.
YOU have to stop procrastinating. Stop bringing doubt upon yourself. Stop doubting your ability to overcome. You have to go after whatever it is that you want in life. No matter how may pointers someone gives you, it is your choice to TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR OWN LIFE! You have the power and the authority to do the work to succeed. Say “Bye” to your “Felicias” and thank those who support you during your not-so-pretty days.
Growth is wonderful!
[Candance Massie is a social worker and brilliant writer residing in Tennessee. This re-post is shared by permission.]