It’s just true. You are beautiful. You may not even think you are all the time. But, you are. And not that take the picture from just the right angle selfie type of beauty. You are genuinely attractive. I only have one problem. When I tell you this truth, your response is “Thank you.” Your response tells me that you do not have perspective on your beauty. The perspective-aware response to someone’s, “You’re beautiful” is “You’re right. I have so much to pay forward.” Allow me to explain.
Beauty means access. Access requires responsibility. Your beauty is not complimentary—a simple acknowledgement of an aesthetic quality. You must strive to make it complementary—make it work for you.
As a superpower, see your beauty as a energy-based ability to open doors and command attention. When you walk into a room, when you meet a new person, they instinctively pay attention listening to what you will say. You have about 12 seconds to engage their heart while they determine whether they will defend their ego or allow your influence. Their choice made, your energy is still powerful enough to move them, though more intellect floods the equation that was for 12 seconds mostly emotional. Your beauty earns you attention. Without it, you could still be effective. But, utilizing it intentionally, you can win hearts and minds.
Your responsibility is at least two-fold. You have to see your beauty for what it is, recognizing it as enough. And, you must build competencies leveraging your beauty.
Your beauty is enough. You have to get in tune with it. Start with your insecurities. Realize that everyone judges you by themselves. Your lack of perfection allows them to lessen their resistance and defense. Next, focus on your energy. The equation of interaction with 98 percent of humans is balanced with emotional intelligence through perception and memory. Your smile, your warmth, your confidence, and your attitude placed them at ease knowing that they are genuinely seen by you.
Think of the second responsibility, competency building, as the programming you upload once you have access to the computer. Each person you meet is ready to be influenced. You know that your beauty is enough. Seek to learn from the other, thus feeding your understanding of their worldview. Make the connection between their world view and your agenda. Educate them as you receive education from them. Create a reciprocal exchange.
If you are like many, you are not satisfied with being called pretty or attractive. You desire to be known for more than just a pretty face or a healthy physique. My job is educate you to the fact that your beauty is more than just a simple compliment. It is a complement to your vision and goals. Rather than dismissing it as immaterial and secondary, consider it on the same footing as intelligence, capability, and capacity. Develop it as a useful construct as opposed to a simple grooming regimen. Find that your potential for influence includes your beauty as a complement.