Let’s begin by preparing for the worst. It’s not a setback. It’s a process of finding your best fit. Just like trying on clothes. You want to be comfortable with what you leave the store wearing. Such is the process of jobs, schools, and other relationships. No fear. No lessened esteem about you. It’s about fit.
It doesn’t have to happen all at once. Your growth is a work in progress. It starts with new ideas that lead to new expectations. These lead to new actions that become new habits. These habits over time result in a life well lived.
You are more than the mistakes you have made. Your worth and potential are never in question. They were minted at your birth and confirmed as you made your first wish. Rather than suggest your weakness, each attempt, failure, learn, and try again is proof of your resilience, growth, and momentum. I stay proud of you.
Rather than holding on tightly to what we have learned this far, growth is a continual release of the current information so that it can evolve. The change isn’t only in the information and understanding, but in you fundamentally. You move from a position of conformity to a position of fit. Then, from fit, you move to a position of influence. Your task is to wield that influence intentionally with purpose, responsible for what becomes of it.
Even the question of your ability is reflective ability. It shows that you are self-aware and curious. You possess the ability to look within yourself, to look at your resources, and calculate your options. You take the time to consider outcomes. You structure your need for gratification into sustainable motivations. At the end of this work, realize that you are more than you originally thought. It is your thoughts that prove you’re the truth.