You might think you are different because you participate in rituals that are said to be associated with being a Christian. Your difference must be transformative, beyond works. There is no trying to be righteous, or trying to do what is right.
See, the tinkling cymbal would rather save face than gain grace. It doesn't understand that showing that you're strong doesn't require bellowing out in the market place all day long.
“Work hard. Have discipline.” neglects a simple truth. If you are working hard for your money, you have little time to enjoy it. The “I’ll rest when I’m dead” refrain works as a means to motivate you in the moment, but it is not a lifestyle mantra. The solution...
Your task is to create objective criteria for distinguishing the difference between a sustainable choice and an unsustainable choice. Criteria that are not based in the shame that forces you into silence, conformity, isolation, and stagnation.